The Abstinence Club All pressure is not bad. In high school, I was apart of a organization called the Abstinence Club. Before joining I found out that the Abstinence Club was an organization that provides positive peer pressure among adults and teens within the society. It’s also a group of persons who all come together and agree that they are going to wait until marriage or either become celibate and stop having sex until getting married. The main rule or agreement of the Abstinence Club is to abstain from having sex until marriage.
For that reason I not only joined but also became the president of thee club, I joined because it was nice to know I wasn’t thee only teenager who felt the immediate need to rush into having sex. For example, most the teens at the age of fifth teen had already had about three or more sex partners and was proud, when I haven’t even had one. The group started out with about thirty members, who came every Thursday for a hour from three to four o’clock. Over the weeks those 30 members would shed away until it was about ten loyal members who all came faithfully every week and understood the whole concept of the organization.
During meetings we talked about the struggles of dealing with sex daily and how many feel pressured into sex. Like for a example, a girl in my group shared how they where going with a boyfriend for a couple months and during the whole so called relationship they where asked when and if they where going to have sex. We eve discussed every sexually transmitted disease there is, and the affects each one can have on a person. Like the the STD called H. P. V there are hundreds of them but there is only a few what can affect a person horribly.
HPV can be transferred by skin to skin contact as well as sexually and may cause warts to appear. To make our discussions we had even more clear, we would watch different moves of people with different STD’s and look at disturbing pictures to make sure our minds would surely be strayed away from having sex. I became the president of the club to show I was able to withstand all negative peer pressures and wait until marriage to have sex. As president, I had to lead an example and also bring Abstinence awareness to the school.
In the hall ways, would post up charts that show the total amount of sex partners you and your boyfriends or girlfriend have had added together and show how STD’s spread. I even had to gather a group of my school mates in the school auditorium and give like a quick ten to twenty minute speed during lunch time and show how its not all about having sex with any and everyone and making a game out of sex, but to save that special moment for your husband and or wife. I had to explain and even give examples that everyone could relate to.
For example if a person who has had five to fifth teen other sex partners, or either have been having sex with the person they plan to marry up until the marriage day, how special will that honey moon really be. There’s nothing more special then saving yourself for the one you plan on spending the rest of your life with. While I was in the Abstinence Club it showed me how life can be without sex. Some may think that sounds like the worst thing ever especially the men, but I think it’s empowering and shows that I could stand up for what I believe in. I say empowering because a life without any kind of worries sounds ideal to me.
By worries I mean living a life with STD and HIV AIDS free. My world would crumble before me if I was ever told I have aids and had only a few granted years to live with the help of medication. If I wait on that special person that can put a ring on my finger, that’s loyal, and trust worthy, contracting an STD doesn’t even come to mind so there’s no need to worry. It shows life without sex doesn’t even have to have to lead to having a child out of wedlock, not being abstinent and having kids out of wedlock can sometimes mean not knowing who the baby father is, or both knowing and neither have the financial means to support a child.
The Abstinence Club provides positive peer pressure because it’s a organization that encourages persons to wait until marriage to have sex. It’s about saving that special moment with that loving significant other who plan to spend the rest of your life with and can put a ring on your finger, trust in, and not worrying about contracting an STD or worst AIDS. This organization can also provides ways to avoid negative peer pressure by not trying to fit into the norm and having sex just because everyone is as if trading in innocents is a game.
