Most of the time people think that having a true friend is not possible. I am one of the people who think that having a true friend is possible. Andrea is the first person I met when I arrived to Chicago, looking as lost and lonely as I did. She was the first person who approach me and started a conversation. Even though we are so different in appearance and personality, we recognized how similar we were. It was in the cafeteria where I met her. I was drinking coffee when suddenly she walked through the cafeteria. I will never forget that day because it was a very special day for me.
Consequently, we became friends since we met in there, and we have been ever since. Andrea is now studying medicine and just like myself is the first in her family to make it to college. Andrea, is a very passionate, bright individual who has fought against her family stereotypes and family gender roles just as me. I admire her for that particular reason. It is hard to go against your whole family to defend your beliefs. However, all that admiration at times contradicts it self. Is hard to understand how a person who is so lovely and confident can be so insecure of herself. Andrea is a young bright individual.
She is full of life and is always finding a solution to her problems. She has long dark hair and two big brown eyes who tend to look smaller due to her glasses. She has fair skin with a few freckles on her cheeks. She is tall, and a little large. She used to be thin and sporty, but after high school she left many of her favorite hubbies behind and dedicated herself in full to school, and to accomplish her dreams. She wanted to prove her parents that she could do anything she set her mind to, and she did. But when she finally stopped and took a breath, she realized she had left many things that made her happy behind.
She was indeed proving her parents wrong and accomplishing one of her many dreams, however, she had forgotten about herself. During that period I approached her and mention how proud I was of her for fighting for her dreams, but that she also need to distract herself. All I wanted at that point was for her to feel supported. I didn’t want her to see or noticed or mention anything about her weight gain. She barely went out and had any friends. She separated and excluded herself completely. I couldn’t remember the last time we had gone for a coffee or grab dinner together. That day I called her and invited her to dinner.
She immediately said no and gave me a million of excuses who summarized to her gain of weight. She didn’t want anyone of us (her friends) to see her. That really upset me. I love Andrea with all my heart. She has always been there for me. However, at points we have our disagreements. It bothers me how insecure of her appearance she can be. I personally believe that what makes a person valuable is their attitude and their heart not their body. Is hard to see you friend who you admired and respected for being so strong and fighting against her family gender roles fall apart.
In conclusion, Andrea has been a very important part of my life. She has been my best friend for many years and know I can count with her for anything. However, her attitude bother me and it makes me get angry at her. The feeling might not last long because when someone really cared about someone else the anger doesn’t last long. All I want is to see her happy and accomplish. She is my best friend and I would never like to see her suffer. At points I wish she could be more confident about her appearance as she is about her dreams.
