IdentityWhat is someone’s identity? Is it the way they look, the way they dress, or itcould be many things all put together, or is it none of the above? To mesomeone’s identity is a part of his or her being. Nobody will ever hold it,touch it, or even see it, but it is there.
Everybody has one, it guilds yourdecision making, your thoughts, ideas, and dreams. You may think something isterrible while someone else does not even care and yet another person may laugh,why? The answer is simple; everyone has his own identity and personality. Everyone feels, acts, thinks, and dreams differently. People may have some ofthese things in common with one another, but they will not be totally the same,it is like a fingerprint, unique. There are many origins to a person’sidentity, their family, friends, home life, environment and others. But how doesit get there, you do not go into a store and pick on off the shelf.
A person’sidentity is developed over many years and put together by the person themselves. It comes from the individuals ability to think, reason and form an opinion. Nobody has the same mind, or the same or the same conscious, so how could anyonehave the same identity as another. A person’s identity is developed over manyyears from the time they become aware of their surroundings, to the time theydecide if they are going to college, and even as they grow old there identitywill change with them. As people’s dreams are dreamed and goals areaccomplished their identities will change with the individual.
Their aspirationsand values will change, causing their identities to change with it. It may be aslight alteration or a major overhaul but their identity will adjust to theperson. One of the factors of forming an identity will obviously be your family. One’s family if invaluable to them. Your family may not be your biologicalparents or ever a blood relative at all, but nobody in this world can live frombirth without some one.
But no matter who it is they will be the people who takecare of you when you are sick or aid you when you need help. These people willbe there with you for a long time and yes they will have a major impact on whatyou turn out to be it the future. Lots off people are fortunate enough to livewith a mother and a father; they may ever have some brothers and sisters to playwith as they grow up. But ever with the same family influences, brothers andsisters still do not have the same identities Some may even say having a”traditional” family would be bad for the development of an identity. Forexample, what kind identity would a young girl develop if she repeatedly saw herfather beat on her mother’she would probably not feel the same as another girlwhose father always showed love and caring for her mother.
What about a teenagerwho used drugs as often as he changed his underwear. Would his younger brother,in looking up to him, feel the same as another boy who grew up never seeing anillegal drug before? If family members have no regard for keeping the othermembers of the family on the right path to being a good person, then what willthey become? A large part of how someone turns out is due to the family. A good, solid, caring family may give rise to a kinder, gentler person than a familythat does not care whether the children get into trouble. Proper parenting willlead to better identities in there children. Gender is a major cause for aperson’s identity.
A person might act a certain way because of the gender thatis given to them. It is often referred that a person might act a certain waybecause it is in their nature. A person’s nature is a major reason that causesa persons identity. A person might be mentally sick and just go crazy on people. This is part of the person’s nature; he is going to do what his nature compelshim to. A person’s nature might also influence a person to act like a man or awoman.
A man might be a man but have feminine traits. This is the nature of hismind. Nature and identity also characterize how the person acts. The nature ofsomeone might make someone act stronger in his or her own sex. Identity can beseen in even the youngest of children as soon a child is ready to make their owndecision, no matter how trivial the decision might be, the child is starting tocreate his or her own identity and define their own nature.
One child’s naturemight make a little girl act like a boy, also called a tomboy. This means thatthe girl just like to play with boys and do ?boy’ things. While anothergirl, with a different mentality, might play with Barbie dolls and dress in apink dress. However with all these factors related to forming an identity themost important and most influential is the person themselves. We see peopleevery day, some whom we want to be like and some we hope we never turn out like. With all the other outside factors to guide and help or push and hamper, theindividual has the last say.
You are the only on who says what you want to belike over the course of your life. Nobody will ever get inside your mind and dothe thinking for you. Nobody can influence you, you may feel as if you are beingforced to do something but you do not have to do anything. You make the finaldecision. However you act, think, and speak is totally up to you.
