Two common ways of handling a situation are either to do soaccording to ones own personal needs and desires with nospecific regard to other people, or one can base a decision onhow it will be viewed by others. The vast majority of peoplefall on the side of being worried about what others are sayingand thinking. Both good and bad can come from living this way,but it has seemed to remain constant throughout history.
Peoplehave a natural desire to belong, and to fit in with a certaingroup. No matter what group an individual chooses, thatindividual almost always is forced sacrifice a part ofthem self in order to seem more a part of things. People in thisworld seem to need companionship and are often too weak to standalone. As a result, they stand together in what ever group theyare best suited to. It is a point of interest to many of the people who have stoppedto think about this fact. The idea that people live according tohow others will perceive then has been established as the rule,not the exception.
The real question now lies in the reasons forthis way of life. It was hypothesized by C. S. Lewis that thisdesire to belong and to fit in is a natural human characteristic. He believed that people have an instinctive drive to belong, inthe same sort of way species reproduce. It is possible that histheory of instinctive necessity is accurate, and humans are as awhole are week and scared when they are faced with solitude.
The old adage there is safety in numbers is appropriate inthis topic. Often in this world terrible things happen becausepeople group up and commit unspeakable acts, then take shelter inthe numbers of those involved. The Annual Freaknik celebrationis the perfect example. Thousands of individuals crowd thestreets of Atlanta and pillage the city for a weekend, all thewhile they show no respect for the laws or the residents of thecity. This can be directly related to the issue of people doingthings to be a part of the group. If these people were askedindividually why they did these terrible things, for the mostpart they would respond by saying everyone else is doing it.
This could be translated to I am just trying to be a part ofthings. In this particular example those involved sacrificeany sense of morals or upbringing that they might have had. “Everybody is doing it”. This sentence has ruined thousands oflives. It could could be the worst four word combination in theEnglish language.
People have been convinced to begin drug use,drunk driving, cliff jumping, and countless other unwiseactivities. The reason behind this is clear, the human necessityto fit in and to seem cool is often to strong to compete with. Aperson could have the world and all of its riches, but with outsomeone to share it with, that person would be totally alone. People need each other. This is a fact of the world, and it willnever change.
This need is a natural desire that is found everywhere in every person with very few exceptions. It is true thattrouble can brew and awful things can happen because of thesegroups, but the advantages associated far out weigh the costs. These groups that people form between themselves often serve asshelter for the lonely, for this reason it is natural forpeople to go far out their way if necessary to belong aparticular crowd. As a result the opinion of others iscrucial part of life.and fuck youyou are a bunch of profiteering whores and should be bludgoned to death with a wet noodle!thank you and go to hell….pigfucker!!!