Good communications in our life is a necessity, however we lack of it almost everyday. Sometimes we don’t even notice, when we speak in a certain tone, what kind of body language we use, and that starts an argument. Soon we get carried away and start ignoring the other person, and think that they’re wrong, and we are the only ones who have the right to be right. And sometimes we ignore the world around us and agree, which sometimes is a good strategy to avoid argument, but if we do it every time, we will be pushed down to the ground. But when we have good communications, it doesn’t make us angry or upset, but rather happy and the conversations inspire us.
I always thought of myself as a very aggressive person or a very passive person, considering on the situation. And in this activity I wanted to be a leader, as always, nevertheless I did not know the people very well, and was afraid they would ignore me. However after I heard them say I should be the writer, I felt encouraged and proposed my idea about voting. What this activity told me about myself would be that I’m assertive, meaning I have my own opinions and can stand up for myself and listen to other’s ideas at the same time and respect them. Because usually I either keep my opinion to myself and join in the group, or try to persuade everyone, until they gave up. But this time I tried to say my opinions, and listen to others.
There would be a lot of things that I would change, because I didn’t do so well. If I could change something I would have kept a similar system, because it helped for a team to cooperate more, and for everyone to get involved, and for everyone to express their opinion even though they didn’t say anything. However I felt like I was being more bossy and aggressive then I wanted myself to be, because at first everyone was still confused, and I took to much charge and wanted to get it over as soon as I can because we didn’t have a lot of time to discuss it. And other thing that I would have changed would be to try and keep everyone focused on what was going on.
In my family I would be more of a passive-aggressive just like almost every single teenager. I obey my parents, but at the same time I don’t agree with them, even though I wouldn’t express it. And the reason for that would be, they’re older than me, and even though I work, I am still dependant on my parents. I know that if I obey them, I will get on their good side, and will get something in return. However I don’t act the same around my brother and a lot of times I am being aggressive, because he is younger than me and sometimes I expect for him to obey me, because I am older than him. But when I am with my friends I am more assertive, because I am willing to share my opinions, and listen to others’ ideas, too.
Communication is our door to the world, however we decide what kind of entrance we’re going to make. Is it going to be small or big, aggressive or passive it is all up to us. We can’t change ourselves in an instant; however we can do it over time. And when we fail, just putting our hands down isn’t an option, we don’t have to stand up instantly after a fall, but the most we can do is try.
