Why you might say, well its up in arms what people think the real cause is, some say nature and others say nurture! What is it ? Well Its all on how you look at it. Nature is the way god made you and nurture is the way of there upbringing. From readings most say its from the nature, quote from the gay male interviewed he said ” from the time that I could remember I have always found my same sex more attractive” so its hard to judge because he also said ” as I grew up as a young child and played the tough guy sports that my older brother played, I just could not play hard and physical like he did, also my family is one known for there tough guy image so it may had some effect on my views as a young one.
” So as the table turns there is times in ones life where they see things that could have been a factor but really I believe its from the start when they were born. The definition for Gay reads “happy and loving ” now why is it if these people are said to be loving and happy why is it for society finding it so hard to accept and why does the gays and lesbians have to hide from everyone else! “it was the most difficult thing that I have ever had to do” said Steve and yes that was when he had to tell his parents. Yes he could have not told his parents and kept it a big secret but that is why today the Gay and Lesbian community is so underground and that is because it is to hard for the parents, family, friends and these are the people who make up our society and if the persons family cant accept it then the community will have a harder time. Steve also said ” its like having your life taken right from your hands when the family refuse to talk to you”, and that has to be the hardest thing that he has ever done to his family. But its natural he said when they hear that news they start to think what have we done and I remember Steve telling me the day he told his parents he said ” Chris I don’t think its a great idea that we talk for a bit” I could not understand till he told me his parents would not accept it and he not to talk to anyone of the kids around him, they thought he was evil.
As of today Steve is now talking to his mother and father and both his sister and his brother, Steve said ” now the family knows I don’t care what they say or how they tell and its made my life so much more enjoyable, because there is no more things to hide!!! ” . The mental aspect about the Gays and Lesbian is the pressure to “Coming out of the closet ” This is like putting all your cards on the table because you have a chance of loosing everything (your friends and family). Is this worth it? Do you think a gay person has the chance to change back to a headeralsexual person again! Its is said to be a thing you a born with or that’s what the gays and lesbians say. Its to my believe that you can change some body back because the way I see it, its all like a cult because when the said if your unsure of your sexuality it is easy to defected to that of the sexuality being stressed.
I believe its also a brain wash system, because if you look ways back to 1900’s and even up to the 1950,s there was no suck thing as the Gay and Lesbian community it’s all been very well hidden or its a new thing maybe that is what it is. Steve said ” I have known people who have been married for 20 years and are now coming out” see this not what its about these people see the live the gays and lesbians .
