Family Time Speech
Its 10 oclock….do you know where your children are? We usually laugh at this
question because most parents do know where their children are but do they know
what they are doing or who they are with? If there was a problem in their childs life
would they recognize it in time to intervene? Unfortunately most parents do not spend
enough time with their children to notice things like this.
Gary Stroope, a pastor from
Coral Gables, Fl says, Ive never seen a generation so parentless. Pope John Paul
II is also concerned about the direction that family life is taking. He spoke about it on
his recent visit to St. Louis saying: As the family goes so goes the nation The family
is the cornerstone of society. We need to build up family life. In order to increase
parent awareness of childs behavior, promote family values, and develop simple social
skills, families need to gather together on a routine basis and one of the best ways to
do this is to reinstitute family dinners.
I chose this topic because I see the effects that lack of family time has had on my
family and myself. In addition, I see so many problems that teens have and how it
could be solved by more family time. I wonder how many of these seriously troubled
teens that we hear about in the news could have been reached if their family had been
more aware. For example, one of my close friends has been battling clinical depression
for the past thee years and her family didnt know until she attempted suicide this past
summer. Even I noticed changes in her behavior such as drastic mood swings and her
dreary outlook on life. I even noticed that her eating and sleeping habits changed.
Changes like this could be noticed sooner by more family togetherness. This even
applies to less serious issues as well. For example, It took my grandfather, who is my
guardian, more than a month to realize that I had not been eating dinner. When he
finally did realize he asked me if i was trying to be anorexic or something. I had to bite
my tongue to keep myself from laughing. If I had been anorexic it would have been
time to drive me to the hospital before he noticed.
Even small things like this could be
noticed if there was a set time when families like mine gathered together to have a
Another important function of family time is the passing on of family values. When I
was a child, my mother would eat dinner with me n front of the t v. now i know that this
is not the ideal picture of family dinner but at least she was thee. We would talk about
how my day went or what we were watching and even at a young age I was having
discussions with my mom about current events. She gave me the values system that
i have today.
But I also have an eight year old brother and he has not had the support
and guidance of my mother and i worry about him a lot. My grandfather just sits him
down in front of the tv and lets him fend for himself. There is a noticeable difference
between us. People speak of the nations deteriorating morals and say that tv is
causing it and i think part of this statement is true, But parents are also to blame for
not teaching the children morals and letting the tv do all of the work. My brother has
a harsher attitude towards life i general. When someone gets shot in a movie or on tv,
it doesnt even phase him and i really think that comes from not having a strong
parental figure there to explain to him what is right and wrong.
At the very least family time can teach basic social skills. Simple family dinners can
teach children basic communication skills and manners ms meikle and mrs mullins
in order to become a productive adult, children the guidance of parents and/or other
family members. They need to be taught right decisions. Children need someone to
notice when they are having trouble or are in trouble. They need to be taught morals
and values. And they at least need to be taught basic social skills.
What is one of the
best ways to do this Family contact time .